Valentine’s Day has come and gone. That one day to go the extra mile for someone you love. Or, for many others, just another normal day. Whether you’re single or taken, everybody has somebody to love.
I was chatting with a friend of mine a week or two ago, thinking about how I had a poor relationship history, when she told me something that felt profound.
You’ve had the best, and the longest, relationship out of all of us. One with yourself.
Over the past 6 years or so, the only true relationship I’ve managed to have is one with myself. Of course, there are a number of personal reasons for that. What’s important to know is that it was a conscious decision I made for myself…to remain single until I felt truly ready to be in a relationship with someone else. After all, I didn’t love myself. How could I love someone else if I couldn’t even find it in me to love myself, or yet, to accept the love of another?
I’ve often been told, “I don’t know how you can stay single for so long.” For awhile, I didn’t know how either. I just knew that I did, it wasn’t hard and I just had no real interest in anyone. Later on I realised that I didn’t consider myself single. I didn’t consider myself available. I had made a commitment to myself and stuck by it. I was already in a relationship…with myself.